Expensive in a Relation

When I think of a relationship there are a lot of things that comes to mind. The front and foremost being the People involved, then their is love, respect, mutual understanding and what not. But amongst the haze something very important gets overlooked. Something that all relationships are based upon. We tend to undermine it's important and it is the one of the single most important killer of any kind of relationship. If you haven't guessed uptill now then let me help you. It's the ever enduring "Trust".

For me the single most important thing in a relatioship is trust. Out there when you are fighting the world it's always nice to know that there is someone you can trust on. Who will look over your backs and expect you to do the same. It's the most difficult thing to achieve and the most easy thing to loose. where we cannot take anything for it's face value, we can always take the word of a friend. No body wonders the relationship between a dog and his master. Once look closely at it. You'll find that it's the trust that they share that makes it such a wonderful thing. Alas in this fast moving world, only the trust of an animal can be trusted upon.

A blind man will trust his dog to lead the way but we with our eyes wide open cannot trust the friends that we seem to have in abundance. Somebody told you that the wall has just been painted don't lean on it and you have go on and make sure of it yourself.

It takes years of painstaking bits of acts to make someone trust you and we go out there are blow it off in a moment. My first real true friend came about to be in a very unusual circumstances. We are out playing in school and suddenly some argument irrupted and he beat the hell out of me. Then I knew this was the guy I could trust my life with. He stood his ground for what he believed in. Since then every bit has been a trust building thing and after nearly 12 yrs I can bet my life with him.

Trust is the most strange thing if you think about it. Think of a battle field. People from different walks of life and different religion come together. And even before they join they know they are going into a world where trust is the paramount thing. Why can't we learn to trust like that in our day to day life. You sit next to a person for ages and still you cannot trust the person with you Pen and in the battlefield ppl trust other ppl in a day with their lives.

Just Wanted to Share a Couple of Beers

This is something I picked up off my pile of Emails. Hope you like it

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are just not enough, remember this story of the mayonnaise jar and the beer.

A professor stood before his philosophy class with some items on the desk in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and filled it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the spaces between the golf balls. He asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured the contents into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked again if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes".

The professor then produced two cans of beer and poured them into the jar, effectively obliterating the spaces between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now", said the professor, after the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that the jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favorite passions - things that, if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter - your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff. If you put the sand in first, there is no space for the golf balls and pebbles.

The same goes for life. If you spend your time and energy on the small stuff, there will never be time for the things that are really important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical for your happiness. Talk to your parents, play with your children. Take time to get a medical checkup. See another sunset. Write to a friend. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and asked what the beer represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers."

Things that matter in Life

Hold on a Second. Take a deep breath and recall your past few days. Figure out the things that changed your life, brought a smile on your face or changed your out look for life.

Now start counting all these incidents and place them into two different categories. Big Events and Small Everyday Incidents. What do you get? For every big event (if there were any in the past few few days) there are so many small incidents.

Conclusion: Small things matter in life. Big events that change your life for ever are few and far apart like a new child in your life or marriage or a college degree. They happen rarely and you have to struggle to achieve them. But small things, they just happen out of the blue. A smile from a total stranger, A "Hi There" from that girl/guy you have a serious crush on, Or just a simple courtesy call from a long lost friend. These brighten your day and make you feel worthwile.

Small things in life I believe are so much underrated. "Get well soon" for a sick person or a "Thank you" for some service provided to you makes all the difference. People are starved for affection and love. In today's world we find it much easier to be affectionate to our pets then to our neighbours.

Have you had some preson you had long forgotten call you on your birthday to wish you. Doesn't that make you feel wonderful and loved and important. There is this friend of mine. We have been studying together since hi-school and share the same date of birth. We don't talk much, just the "hi" friends and I rearly call her. But since the first year I have known her I made it a point to call her home and wish her. This past year I was a little late in calling and guess what more then her, it was her mother who was waiting for me to call. She was worried that I hadn't called in yet. All it takes is a phone call and this lady whom I havn't yet have had a pleasure of meeting already feels a bond.

A few heartfelt moment spent with a person could mean more then a life time spent with other people. I spent two months working together with this person and those 60 days means more to me then years I have spent with rest of my friends.

It takes seconds for a bond to develop only we have to let it happen. In our quest for big things we miss out on so many of those smaller moments. Things that could have truely made a difference.

I don't know if I will ever get the VISA for my studies in the US but I do know that the time I have spent with people in the Yahoo Group has been wonderful and already makes me feel closer to most of them. Why? Cause I know, even if I am there in person I wouldn't have had the opportunity to know names of many of them let alone have a converstation.

It only takes a moment, a few seconds of our lives to say "hello" or "thank you" or wish a "good day" to some one. But these few seconds could mean a life time of a difference to the other person. Well it definetley does mean a lot to me.

So take a time out and : Break the language Barrier :: SMILE :

:To a kid with a hammer :: Everything looks like a Nail: